An essay about disaffection in 7 segments inspired by Stendhal’s seven stages of love, “De L’Amour” (1822). Most people are afraid of love because they are afraid of their deepest joy, delight and inner freedom. In relationship, we must reach a place where being honest and being true to yourself is more important than the survival of the relationship ! Let me illustrate this using Stendhal’s and Roland’s seven stages of a love relationship : ADMIRATION “ I really admire you as a person “ BEGINNING OF DESIRE “ I think I’d like to get to know you better.” HOPE “ I hope you feel the same way about me “ INCEPTION OF LOVE “ I think I’m falling in love with you “ FIRST CRYSTALLIZATION “ I see the beauty and perfection within you “ DOUBT, FEAR AND/OR JEALOUSY, ANGER AND RESENTMENT “ You’re going to hurt me or betray me like others have “. Text and interpretation by Joana Linda.